Julie Lythcott-Haims: How to raise successful kids without over-parenting

I watched this TED video by Julie Lythcott-Haims: How to raise successful kids – without over-parenting and thought it is worthwhile to share.

As a parent of two lovely children, I can’t help but ask myself how can I raise them up not the way I want it but the way is best for them.

Julie Lynthcott-Haims raise very important issues for parents in this short talk as many of us face but are not willing to face reality – we are too concerned about their ‘success’ than their growth. This is especially true in Singapore, and I know now it is not just a kiasu Singapore parent problem.

I would like to quote this from her speech in which I loved the way she puts it across:

“Now, am I saying that every kid is hardworking and motivated and doesn’t need a parent’s involvement or interest in their lives and we should just back off and let go? Hell no.

That is not what I’m saying. What I’m saying is, when we treat grades and scores and accolades and awards as the purpose of childhood, all in furtherance of some hoped-for admission to a tiny number of colleges or entrance to a small number of careers, that’s too narrow a definition of success for our kids. And even though we might help them achieve some shoe-term wins by over helping – like they get a better grade if we help them do their homework, they might end up with a longer childhood resume when we help – what I’m saying is that all of this comes at a long-term cost to their sense of self. What I’m saying is, we should be less concerned with the specific set of colleges they might be able to apply to or might get into and far more concerned that they have the habits, the mindset, the skill set, the wellness, to be successful wherever they go.What I’m saying is our kids need us to be a little less obsessed with grades and scores and a whole lot more interested in childhood providing a foundation for their success built on things like love and chores.”

I really loved this part. I too, believe that I should focus more on the values my children grow up with and not just the grades and scores in a book.

Parents, do take time to listen to her speech. It is important for us to know what is good for our children’s growth, for our children’s success.

Victor Lee is the owner of imVictorLee.com. Passionate in Affiliate Marketing, Personal Development and Training, Victor hopes to equip more people with skills and knowledge not just to make money online, but to have financial and time freedom for the things that matter most.
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Victor Lee

Victor Lee is the owner of imVictorLee.com. Passionate in Affiliate Marketing, Personal Development and Training, Victor hopes to equip more people with skills and knowledge not just to make money online, but to have financial and time freedom for the things that matter most. Click Here if you would like an opportunity to work with Victor.

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